In Defense of Team Jacob
Warning: There may be spoilers about Twilight in this post. If you have not read the books and are planning to read them, you may want to skip this post.
When I first saw the Team Jacob signs, t-shirts and such I was like WHAT??!! I didn’t get it. How could anyone be Team Jacob? Did they not read Twilight? Do they not realize how perfect Edward is for Bella? How perfect Edward is period?
Then I read Eclipse. I get it now.
I finished book three of the Twilight saga yesterday. I’m still thinking about it today.
The thing is that I had a Jacob Black. He was mainly a friend, but he really meant a lot to me. He still means a lot to me even though we haven’t spoken in almost 10 years.
We dated briefly in 8th grade and then became close friends through high school and most of college. He was the stay up almost all night talking on the phone for hours with friend, the throw stones on the bedroom window friend, the his hug would make everything that is wrong in the world right again friend.
There were attempts at becoming more than friends but it just never worked out. It was mostly my fault. I just always had it in the back of my mind that he would be there forever and we would someday end up together. I saw the wedding, I saw the kids, and I saw our future. Together.
That all changed when I met and fell head over heels in love with my husband, my Edward Cullen.
Let’s just say that my husband was not as “understanding” about the whole friendship thing as Edward was so I pretty much ended all contact with this person after we got married.
There was the whole unfortunate Christmas card incident of 1997 but we don’t want to go there.
Life Lesson: Let’s just say that when you are trying to secretly mail your old friend that your husband despises a Christmas card, it is really important that you actually put the stamp on the card because if not it will be returned to sender and even though your husband never typically gets the mail out of the mailbox, this will be the day that he most definitely will do it and it will be a very awkward situation. That is all I’m going to say about the unfortunate Christmas Card Incident of 1997.
I really don’t know where I’m going with this post other than to say that I get it. I get the whole Jacob Black thing. I get why it was so hard for Bella to end things with him but at the same time it really wasn’t a difficult choice at all. She picked the guy that she knew she couldn’t live without. She picked Edward.
That doesn’t make it easy to say goodbye to that other person even though you know staying in touch would end up hurting everyone involved. It doesn’t make it easy when you read a book, hear a song or see a movie that reminds you of that person that meant so much to you.
And it most definitely doesn’t make it easy when one of your friends decides to add him as a friend on Facebook. Grrrrrr. That is a whole other post, though.
So, fess up. Do you have a Jacob Black? Are you still friends with any of your old boyfriends? How do you feel about being married and having close friendships with someone of the opposite sex?
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I dont’ have a Jacob Black, but I am not married (anymore) and I never had a guy friend like that. I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a close friend of the opposite sex, but it depends on the person and the circumstances. I think if the spouse is uncomfortable with it (like yours was) then its best to let it go.
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I didn’t have one…but I kinda get it, too!
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I am Team Jacob, and I haven’t even read past New Moon yet.
I did the opposite, I screwed up and lost my Edward and married my Jacob. I do still think about my Edward, and even dream about him sometimes, but I’m happy with my Jacob. In fact if I’d gone with my Edward my life would be different in ways I would not be happy with.
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I only saw the movie Twilight–didn’t read the books–but I think you gave it away for me. Oh well.
I’m still good friends with two ex’s, but I’ve included my spouse in those friendships. And to be honest, I’m hoping to remain good friends with my spouse once we are fully separated. Yep. It’s weird, I know. Needless to say, I didn’t marry my Edward or my Jacob.
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Ok, ok…. I admit, I had a “Jacob” too that was my high school sweetheart and sometime college sweetheart. But then I met my “Edward” and the rest is history!
So, I can see your point. Yes, I get it. (but first your post title scared me!)
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Social networking/media makes it hard to cut ties with people that you should really just not have contact with. That’s one thing I don’t like about facebook.
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Whew… that wasn’t as bad as your title implied. I will say that I can relate to it and I think if we search our memories we may be surprised to find that more than not we have one — but I still think he is a dirty, mangy dog. LOL
If I may say that your post was brave. I don’t know if I have it in me to be that honest nor do I think my Edward would tolerate it if I were…
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I was totally Team Jacob for a while. But now I’m back to Edward. Lucky Bella to have so many wonderful men in her life.
I think it’s really hard to have close friends of the opposite sex while married. That’s not to say it can’t be done, but I think it would be very tough.
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I did not have my own Jacob Black… I mean, I was friends with a lot of guys in school. But none of them were my BFF.
I don’t know about having a very close friend of the opposite sex while married. Honestly, I’d have a very hard time if my husband was best friends with a girl…
But that’s just me.
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I don’t have an Jacob, or at least I didn’t think I did when I first started reading your post, but now maybe I think I do. He’s a really close friend who I turn to all the time. And he’s always there for me. My husband knew him a few years back but never connected with him and he knows I keep in contact with him but not how much. I wonder what it would feel like to give my Jacob up. Hmm.
Incidentally, I was always Team Jacob. I might reconsider!
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For the record, I still am “Team Edward” all the way. When I read Eclipse, I got so angry at Bella. Why the heck couldn’t she just cut it off with Jacob? But, I guess, after reading your post, that I do kind of get it. I’ve had a few “Jacobs” in my life, but all of those relationships ended when I met my husband.
Personally, I don’t think it’s possible to be married and have a close friendship with a member of the opposite sex. It’s like Billy Crystal said in When Harry Met Sally — “Men and women can’t be friends. The s*x thing always gets in the way.” I wish it didn’t. But, for some reason, it always does. Like Shannon, I don’t think I would be able to handle it if my husband’s best friend was a girl.
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You HAVE to get thru book four then tell us what you think.. it’s book four that has it all going
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I am borderline Team Edward/Switzerland. I never really had a problem w/ Jacob. I see why he was so important in NM, he helped her get out her funk.. and Eclipse I can relate to why it was so hard for her to choose. I myself have a Jacob Black. My husband is understanding, but not as understanding as Edward. I still talk to him every once in awhile, he recently moved back to the area after being gone for 6 years. Kind of freaking out about that but I have yet to see him. and my Jacob Black was nowhere near as pushy as the one in the book lol, he understands it didn’t work out and would much rather be friends than nothing at all.. loved the post
I would never be as brave as you are to post this.
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I liked Jacob’s character but the Bella Jacob Edward triangle just pissed me off (almost enough to stop reading the books). I understand loving 2 people but I felt like Bella was being selfish and rude to both Edward and Jacob. In love there has to be compromise and it can’t always be about one person (AKA Bella)
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Heh… This whole Team Edward vs Team Jacob is getting on my nerves. Anyway, I am Team Jacob because I thought he was adorable (most of the time) and I am not (like) Bella, so I just liked him better. Also, I think Edward and E/B are kinda overrated, I mean, my best friend told me “greatest love story ever” and when I read it…. I thought it was just okay, nothing to die for (hehe ^_^).
I had my Edward, then my Jacob… I think Jacob wins, at least right now, but I’ve never compared the two…
Team Jacob in the end.
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