I could sit here and write a bunch of sappy things about him and how much he means to me.  You know what, that would all be true, but that just isn’t me.  Or him for that matter.

The thing is-we’ve had our share of ups and downs. I guess you could say our relationship could be compared to a rollercoaster ride.  

In the beginning, it felt like a wooden coaster.  It was a very shaky and rough ride, with a LOT of bumps.  But over the years (we’ve actually been together for sixteen), we’ve moved on to riding a steel coaster. 

It still has the ups and downs, but for the most part it is a smooth ride.  And there may even be a loop thrown in there every once in awhile (although I’m not sure what that represents but it’s probably good). 

So, I’d like to quote the words of my favorite movie ever because although I could have bought him a card, I feel like this is better for the environment and isn’t that what a card is anyway–stealing someone else’s words to tell your feelings.  

They speak the truth and are more romantic than a cheesy card could ever be.

“Well that’s what we do. We fight. You tell me when I’m being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you are being a pain in the ass.  Which you are 99% of the time. I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings.  You have like a two second rebound rate and you’re back do doing the next pain in the ass thing.  So it’s not going to be easy. It’s going to be really hard. And we’re going to have to work at this every day.  But I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me every day.”

Eleven years.  Sixteen years.  Sixty years.  I don’t want to ever get off this ride. 

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PS We were married in the olden days before digital cameras, so I had to take a picture of my wedding album.  That’s pretty sad, isn’t it?

PSS John Mayer still hasn’t contacted me about the concert.  

PSSS Here’s a link to the video from that scene.  God, I love that scene. 

PSSSS  I’m getting a little obnoxious with PSing lately.  ENOUGH!!!

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My Nan died of cancer, and as tragic as the loss was to my family, enough time has passed that I really want to try to find something positive to take away from it. 

Let me start out by saying that this woman was no saint.  She was pretty quick-tempered and as stubborn as they come, but the thing is, no one seemed to dwell on these shortcomings after she passed.  While people did acknowledge her fiery personality, they mostly praised her for the multitude of positive qualities that she possessed, most notably her cooking skills and hospitable personality. 

You were always welcome over Nan’s and once you got there she always had a warm plate of food ready for you to eat. And eat.  And eat.  The food was not only plentiful, but it was so unbelievably delicious.  I think her secret ingredient was the love that she put into each and every morsel.     

Her house always seemed so inviting and it surely didn’t matter that her furniture and carpet were outdated.  Basically it was always clean and uncluttered, but never a showplace.  

So, what lessons can take from her life and pass along to others?  I need to be better about opening my door and letting friends, family, and neighbors in.   I should stop stressing so much about  the state of my house.  Has my sofa seen better days?  Of course, but that isn’t the point.   The people that matter won’t care about that or even the pile of papers on top the microwave that haven’t been filed for weeks.  They’ll only remember the important things- food, love and good conversation.  That was all that anyone remembered about Nan. 

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